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Sex, sex, sex, sex, sex, sex…

August 1, 2007

The question of why a person decides to have sex is actually more interesting the more I think about it. 

There is, of course, the biological imperative.  We’re programmed to procreate.  And sex is fun.  But it can’t be as simple as that, or we’d be thumping like bunnies all the time, everywhere we go. 

And unlike this idiot, I don’t think there’s a trick to it. 

A couple of UT-Austin psychologists conducted a study exploring why people have sex.  This short write-up has a sample of a few of the reasons stated.  Some of them are kind of disturbing and others are quite hilarious. 

Here are a couple of my favorites. 

“The person was a good dancer.”

“It seemed like good exercise”

Heh.  I’d like to add a couple of my own.  “She paid for dinner.”  And “It was either that or talking.”  Anyone like to add some of their own? 

Anti-choicers and Al Qaeda

July 16, 2007

Update – It looks like Amanda at Pandagon wrote with a slightly different angle about what the anti-choice movement is really about.  There are some pretty neat examples of what I’m talking about in her post too so check it out. 

In blog years, this is ancient.  But Elyzabethe at Yellow is the Color commented on this last week and it looks like Jill at Feministe picked it up too.  It’s about the Ohio state legislature introducing a bill to ban abortion. 

This may not be news anymore but I did want to attempt to answer Elyzbethe’s question which was: 

But still ….. don’t these people have anything better to do then introduce pointless radical legislation? Aren’t there, like, actual problems in Ohio? Would it be too much to ask that our elected officials paid attention to things that might actually be beneficial to state citizens, instead of measures designed solely to demonstrate their superior morality?

This brings up a point that I think is often underestimated or overlooked by people who support choice.  Anti-choicers see this issue as a crusade or, if you prefer, a jihad.  The most radical among them do not simply approach abortion as one of many political issues.  It is the issue. 

In their mind, the fact that abortion is legal and that women are having them is a symptom of a larger cultural and spiritual “evil.”  An abortion clinic in their neighborhood is a spiritual blight and a cancer.  It is an insult to the God that gave them that land, which in their mind is a Christian land.  It is deeply offensive to them. 

Much like Christian soldiers occupying Saudi Arabia or Iraq are offensive to groups like, say, Al Qaeda. 

The most radical anti-choicers see their movement to get rid of abortion as part of a larger movement to spiritually cleanse this nation.  They operate their movement like one would operate an insurgency.  Insurgencies follow certain patterns.  Here are a few I’ve noticed. 

1. Maintain at all costs the illusion of momentum and inevitablity

This is all important, actually.  Insurgencies are, by their nature, minority movements.  In the anti-choice world, even with the recent losses in the last election and specifically in South Dakota’s decision to overturn their own abortion ban, the anti-choice movement is growing.  They can now claim to have very nearly taken over the Supreme Court and to have scored a huge judicial victory when the partial birth abortion ban was upheld.

They have an amazing ability to raise money and support their own candidates for public office on nearly every level.  They can also offer simultaneous abortion bills in multiple states.  The more radical a bill is, and the more attention it garners, the better.  And if one gets defeated, they can just propose another one again and again.  If one legislator is voted out of office, they have dozens to take his place. 

The effect is to put pro-choicers on the defensive, to create the illusion that there is a mass groundswell of public support of banning abortion all over the country, making it difficult to direct resources to educate and oppose their radical agenda. 

This is similar to the tactic that has become a hallmark of Al Qaeda.  Multiple suicide bombings in different areas at the same time offer the illusion of sophistication, inevitability, and power.  It engenders confusion and makes it more difficult for governments to direct resources to fight back.  Even when the bombs fail, it still serves its purpose.  Even if a suicide bomber gets caught, there are dozens to take his place. 

2. Claim moral highground, superiority, and obscure the ultimate agenda. 

The partial birth abortion ban was a great example of this tactic.  Here was a little understood procedure which was used as a medically necessary option in certain situations that was described in the most heinous terms and then attacked.  It allowed the anti-choicers to paint abortion as a sadistic, violent, and immoral procedure, which had long-term psychological consequences for mothers. 

The debate about partial birth abortion, for them, was never about what was the most medically sound option for women.  It was about horrifying the public and shaming women, doctors, politicians, and voters. 

And of course, the real agenda for the most radical anti-choicers is not getting rid of abortion and saving babies.  It’s about getting rid of dirty, nasty, unholy sexual relationships, which includes most sexual relationships and most sexual positions.  It’s not about having fun!  Sexual fun is a sign of moral sickness and depravity.  Sex is about making babies.  And we all know that the best babies are only made in the missionary position between a man and his wife-servant. 

Of course, Al Qaeda also makes a point to describe in self-serving detail the various moral crimes of Christian soldiers against Muslims and their chattel.  Ahem.  I mean “women.”  They play and replay the photos from Abu Graib, scenes of destruction after American bombing, dead bodies along the road, houses in rubble, crying women, maimed children, and the “Westernization” of Arab culture. 

Al Qaeda advertises that they simply want to “liberate” the Arab people from their corrupted and compromised governments, from the Christian soldiers who occupy their lands, and from the sinful, secular Arabs who have brought it all upon them. 

But of course, this obscures the fact that Al Qaeda ultimately wishes to introduce sharia law. 

3. Probe, observe, and always test the defenses of the enemy.  Never rest. 

And finally the reason for legislation that will probably never pass.  It lets people know they’re still out there.  It keeps the opposition on its toes.  It exposes they way the opposition operates and reacts, which may reveal a weakness or even a fault line of support.  The partial birth abortion ban came out of this tactic.  Supreme Court decisions were analyzed and picked apart, focus groups were tested, and ideas were floated around until it became clear there was an opening there. 

When the U.S. soldiers first got to Iraq and after the Taliban left the major cities in Afghanistan without a fight, there was a period of relative quiet.  Many people, including our Preznit, thought that major combat operations were over. 

But like any competent insurgency, the enemy anticipated a long war, and occassionally coordinated an attack, to let people know they were still there but also to study the U.S. military.  It made them a better, more calculated insurgency and the results have largely been on display for the last couple years in both countries. 

What this all means for pro-choicers, like me, is that we have to recognize once for all what we’re up against.  We have to fight the anti-choicers the way we should be fighting Al Qaeda (sans the military, obviously).  With educational initiatives, by responding effectively to the absurd and horrific claims of the opposition, and by exposing the truth behind its radical agenda. 

So these are my initial answers to Elyzabethe’s question.  I’m interested in other people’s thoughts. 

And let me clarify something.  When I use the word “anti-choicer,” I am not talking about everyone who is pro-life.  I am only referring to the most radical part of the pro-life movement that is fueled by the need to decide for everyone else the best way to live their lives.  They are actively trying to taking choices away from everyone else because they know best and, in their mind, God said it was okay. 

And before all you radical anti-choicers get your Jack Bauer underoos in a bunch and accuse me of comparing you to terrorists, let me clarify:  I am absolutely comparing you to Al Qaeda.  If the neo-fascist anti-democratic one-God-fits-all theocratic shoe fits…

Sex Ed – Bush style

July 11, 2007

NARAL pointed out that a government web-site designed to help parents teach their teens about sex says that “Abortions can have complications. There may be emotional consequences, as well: some women say that they feel sad and some use more alcohol or drugs than before.” 

It looks like the government has taken down the web-page but Think Progress has the visual

Atrios replies that Bush makes him sad and more likely to drink and use drugs.  “Can we outlaw him now?”

There really is something wrong…

July 11, 2007

with the world.  Via Elyzabethe at Yellow is the Color, it’s difficult to know what to do with this article about men, anal sex, and the ridiculous quotes and stories therein. 

Amanda Marcotte and Jessica Valenti muster more intelligent commentary than I am able to. 

I’ve seen a lot of mysogny and shameful “boys will be boys” behavior in my life.  And I don’t even doubt the men in that article are being accurately portrayed, at least as they were while being interviewed.  But the reporter who wrote that seems to have gone out of his way to gleefully recount what amount to sexually humiliating stories about women.  It’s weird how some men’s magazines feel that what men really want to hear is how bad-ass they are and women are just a bunch of bitches who deserve/want to be dominated by them. 

Ah, but what a way to go…

July 9, 2007

This may be old news to a lot of people but I just came across it yesterday.  This sort of reminds me of the Monty Python sketch where a guy got to choose his own manner of execution and in the next scene you see him running for his life being chased by a bunch of naked roller girls off a cliff. 

What sort of depraved nightmare/fantasy must one be living in to actually fear/wish this was happening? 

Feminism and Libertarianism – Elyzabethe strikes back!!

July 9, 2007

All in all, an excellent post about the issues surrounding the public perceptions of feminism and libertarianism.  I agree that there is a heavy cross-section of libertarianism and feminist interests. 

But having said that, even though what Elyzabethe says makes sense rationally, I have noticed that men who are libertarians haven’t always made the best feminists.  Since my experience is anecdotal and not based on research, take it for what it’s worth, which is admittedly not a lot. 

My issue with libertarianism, intellectually, is I feel it is inconsistent with a strong commitment to the commons.  But I agree with every point Elyzabethe raises, about keeping laws off our bodies, out of our bedrooms, and religion out of government. 

So, to a certain extent, I’m a libertarian when it comes to the government’s reach into our personal lives or when it affects our ability to make personal choices. 

But I’m not a corporate libertarian.  I believe in regulation by a balance of market AND government forces.  My understanding of corporations, which is not extensive, is that unchecked they grow and by their sheer size, economic power, and need to compete eventually limit individual choices. 

Many of the people I meet who self-identify as libertarians talk about taxes and government expenses and the gouging of wealth and the evils of regulation.  As if being forced to pay taxes is the moral equivalence of being forced to carry an unwanted pregnancy to term.  These self-identified libertarians are not as interested in the social consequences of unfettered economic freedom. 

I like Elyzabethe’s view of libertarianism and feminism.  I like how they complement each other. 

As far as the negative stereotypes of feminists… it seems weird to blame someone for how their opponents have defined them.  Why should Rush Limbaugh’s definition for feminists be the starting point? 

Um, what?

June 28, 2007

According to the L.A. Times, the Israeli President, Moshe Katsav, is stepping down after pleading guilty to sexual harassment.  The plea still needs to be approved by the court.  The only problem is that, in addition to some other relatively minor charges, Moshe Katsav is actually accused of raping a female staffer.  

Am I the only one who reads this article and is disturbed by the notion that sexual harassment and rape are considered in the same ballpark?